POLA KOMUNIKASI PASANGAN SUAMI-ISTERI YANG BERBEDA BUDAYA DALAM MENJAGA HUBUNGAN YANG HARMONIS

(Studi Kasus Pada Pasangan Suami-Isteri Budaya Jawa - Indonesia Timur)

Abstract

Indonesia is a multiethnic nation, every culture which live in the community have a typical or traditionally has similarities such as identity, place of residence, marriage patterns and kinship patterns. But many are also major differences, recognizing that cultural differences are legitimate, which must understand there is a difference against the judgement on one's behavior. Good behavior according to a certain culture may be judged not good by other cultures. So with the couple different cultures, see it's all a relationship can run if a couple different cultures can unite the differences and resolve it required effective communication between the couples. The theory of this research is the effectiveness of interpersonal communication by Bochner & Kelly. The purpose of this research is to know the communication strategy which is done after couples of different cultures in reducing misunderstanding interaction. The methods used to study is a case study with a qualitative approach in the form of primary data i.e. in-depth interviews and participant observation and secondary data obtained from libraries. The results showed that the communication strategy of cultural difference couples performed in reducing misunderstanding of interaction is through effective interpersonal communication. There are five characteristics that reflect the relationship effective communication which can be applied to resolve conflict i.e. openness, empathy, positive, support and a sense of equality. To achieve harmonious relations between couples-tolerance attitude required different cultures. Understanding gained through effective communications conducted by different cultures mate. In life, the couple different cultural principles of interpersonal communication effectiveness or characters can create intercultural communication effectiveness.